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Have you ever taken the time to stop and think about what kind of person you are? I mean honestly dig down deep and give yourself a self inspection.

Are you kind, loving, happy, sad, abusive, selfish, giving, friendly, extroverted, introverted, generous, tight fisted, frightened, impulsive, a procrastinator, brave, a coward, respectful, loud, brash, meek, sophisticated, snobbish, fun to be with, a royal pain, and above all else fair?

Fair, by the way, really means that everyone is treated equally. That you treat everyone as you yourself would like to be treated.
As we all know this world isn’t very fair as many people make the judgement that they are better than the next person and deserve special privileges.

Perhaps more importantly than how you see yourself is how do your friends and acquaintances see you? It’s entirely possible that they see you quite differently than you see yourself, isn’t it? Most humans have a build in justification system build into their minds that automatically judges their own actions as acceptable,if not absolutely OK, so it can be difficult to accurately conduct your own analysis.

Something we can and should do on our own, however, is to know the type of person that we would like to be. You can do this my blocking out an hour or two of your precious time and by writing down all of the traits that you admire in others that you would like to find within yourself.

Once you have your list rank the traits that in your view are the most important. If fairness is the most important put that in the number one position, if honesty is number two write it down in the number two position. Repeat the procedure for as many traits as you feel are important.

Next make a list of those traits that you find in yourself. Go through the same ranking exercise. To get the full benefit of this exercise be as honest with yourself as you possibly can be. Give it a lot of thought if you want to fully benefit. Once you have your two lists in order it becomes easy to see how close you are to being the type of person that you admire and would like to become.

To verify your findings ask a few close friends and family members to list your traits in the order that they feel are dominant in your personally. Ask them to be brutally honest as you are working to improve your life by becoming a better human being. If you like make a game of it and offer to swap lists with them by writing down their dominant traits. Once you have their input compare their lists to your own.

Probably, you will be pleasantly surprised. Your friends will likely rate your traits more favorably than you rate them yourself. Still the comparison of the lists should let you know where your short comings lie and help you to start working at self improvement.

Can you change yourself to become a better person? Of course you can if you decide that there is too large of a gap between what you are and what you would like to be. Not that it’s easy as to change you have to first acknowledge that there is a need to change.

For some, this is a bar too high. They just will not admit that there is room for improvement or just too lazy or indifferent to make an effort. They are not aware of their own shortcomings or perhaps just don’t care. Without acknowledgement there will be no change.

If you want to work at becoming a better person, at least a better person in the view that really matters, your own, then work at it in little steps. That is try to change one trait at a time.

For example, if you have always been a bit of a tightwad work at becoming more generous, with your time as well as your money. The next time you see a poor beggar on the street give him/her a big smile and a few bucks rather than looking away as if that person doesn’t exist. You will likely be pleased at how much that simple act can raise your own self esteem and move you that much closer to being the best person that you can possibly be.

If you have a tendency to be abrupt and abusive with fellow workers make an effort to give them a big smile the next time you have a meeting and slowly explain whatever it is you want them to do. Again you will likely be amazed at how they quickly their altitude will change. In no time at all you will have earned their full cooperation and create a more productive and certainly more pleasant work environment.

If you tend to be abrupt and abusive at home try the same procedure . You can make your environment a lot more pleasant by working at it one step at a time. While it may be too overwhelming to think of changing all of your undesirable traits and of improving all of your traits all at once you can manage one thing at a time.

It is important to know what type of person that you would like to be. If you have no idea you then you are probably not all that you could be. It’s a shame to live your very short life without a conscious effort to become a more enlightened and completely fair human being. To live the life of your dreams you must be happy with the type of person that you are.

If you are still unsure just what type of person that you would like to be go for fair and all else will very likely somehow fall into place.

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