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Maybe it was a long simmering argument or maybe a sudden flash of anger. How ever it happened you and your partner have split. And you are determined to get your ex back.

You feel so strongly that this break up is all a mistake that you want to contact your ex not now, but right now. By phone, email, text or in person you are determined to get in touch with your ex and explain that this break up is not right.

But this is a critical time. If you try to talk to your ex now, so soon after the break up, you could put an end to this relationship forever. It will be difficult for you but you must have patience, you have to wait.

There Is A Reason For The Split

Remember, your break happened for a reason. Maybe for several reasons. You may not be able to see what caused the break up or if you know the cause maybe it just doesn’t make sense to you so you tend to want to dismiss it as unimportant. But if you go blundering in now, soon after the split, begging to be heard, demanding that your ex listen to reason, your version of reason, you will only make matters worse.

Difficult as it may be for you, now is the time to play the waiting game.

Only you can decide how long to wait before making contact with your ex. The circumstances of the break up can help you make the best decision.

If you and your ex were having problems for some time before the break up, wait longer. If there was a lot of anger in your relationship or at the time of the break up, wait longer still.

Think about the kind of person your ex is and how long it may take him or her to cool off and calm down. When you are sure you know how long that period might be, double the time.

Use the Time Wisely

You have a waiting period to get through so use the time for some introspection and self-improvement.

Think about the cause of your break up and your part in it. When the time comes to talk to your ex you need to be able to acknowledge your mistakes and your faults. You need to be able to assure your ex that you are aware of your less attractive qualities and are already taking steps toward improvement.

Patience is key at this early stage. Practice self-control, don’t rush things and work to improve yourself and you have a great chance of not only getting your ex back but becoming a better person as well.

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