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You’ve broken up with your ex and since that day you have experienced little but regret. If only she felt the same regret as you, then winning her back would be much easier. Flat out asking her may be too risky, so it’s time for a more subtle plan.

First, you ought to think about the circumstances that preceded the break up. Were they extreme? If the break up came about because of a bunch of small things that snowballed into something big, she probably regrets breaking up too. But it gets less clear if there was a lot of anger and hostility in the break up. If this describes your situation, then you have to look for signs from your ex that she desires to come back.

1.) Is she having adjustment troubles? If so, the relationship is still a big part of her life. For her, the break up is still causing pain.

2.) Does she prefer to stay friends with you? This signals a desire to keep a connection with you. Remaining friends with her is very advantageous. It keeps a channel of communication open. Sooner or later, you’ll be able to use this to get her back.

3.) Is she inclined to be apologetic for the things that she said during the heat of the break up? This hints at a hope for reconciliation.

4.) Does she tend to send compliments your way when you converse? Any compliment no matter how indirect is important.

5.) Is your ex dating someone else? If it’s been a while since the break up and she’s not involved with someone else, then maybe she’s finding it very hard to replace what the two of you had together. Perhaps no one else can take your place.

6.) Has she kept the lines of communication open? Put differently, both of you readily communicate back and forth.

7.) Are you learning anything from her body language? If there’s still a love interest, her eyebrows will slightly lift and her eyes will widen upon noting your presence. Another hopeful signal are dilated pupils. Other signs include quick hair adjustments and protracted eye contact.

8.) Mirroring is also a big giveaway. When she unconsciously imitates your body language or your mood, she’s mirroring. Other things she may mirror include the rhythm, loudness and tone of your speech.

9.) Is the word “you” used a lot in her dialog when she talks to you? This is a clear indication of interest in you since 2nd person speech is more personal than third person.

10) Is she still doing those small favors for you like she did in the past? If she wanted you out of her life, she just wouldn’t bother.

If some of these signs apply to your case, your prospects of getting her back look good.

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